Toddlers and Tantrums
“A tantrum is an outlet, an overflow valve when a child’s emotions seem to burst at the seams. A tantrum is a release of energy for all the changes going on in a young child’s mind and body.” Magda Gerber
Tantrums are common among 1-5 year olds, particularly in the 18 month to 3 year age range when children have difficulty communicating their needs.
The main causes of tantrums are tiredness, hunger and frustration.
When parents are busy, pre-occupied or stressed, children are more likely to have tantrums to make sure their needs are being met.
Dealing with tantrums.
- Make sure the child is in a safe place
- Don’t try to reason with them or discipline them
- Try to stay strong and calm
- If the child is in danger of hurting themselves, others or property they may need to be held
- Be there to comfort the child after the tantrum.
- Give them words to describe their feelings – “I know you are angry/upset/frustrated” their feelings are valid, respect them.
- Make sure you do not give into any demands what might have started the tantrum.
- Discuss the incident some time after the event, once again respecting their feelings as real.
This conscious parenting tip comes from Parents Centres 'Magic Moments' Programme. Check out our website to enquire when this programme will be running at a Centre near you.